While far from the most objective journal in existence, the Seattle Gay News from time to time comes up with these little gems in their specialized purview that illustrate better than anything else why not only is domestic partnership simply not good enough, a status quo that refuses to acknowledge extra-jurisdictional marriages or lawful marriages performed under the laws of the states is actively bad.
A bigoted and grasping family attempting to rape a spouse of survivors benefits is far from an argument for virtue or civilization. Expelling the primary care-giver and spouse of a person suffering with AIDS, with the logical trade-off that said person will then need to (most likely paid by the government) hire an expensive professional care-giver is not an argument based in logic or sanity.
Equality before the law is not only more moral, it's *cheaper* - and in a time when our nation is suffering record deficits with ever greater insupportable obligations mounting due to the fiscal adventurism of the scoundrel in chief and his merry band of co-conspirators, cheaper is certainly a vast and mighty virtue.
It's time for this foolishness to end. Marriage, for the sake of legal sanity alone (if not for the sake of decency and simple morality) is and must remain a matter for the states and various foreign nations to define, not the federal government - with the codicil that the states must recognize and honor all of the marriages performed by every other state and foreign nation that in turn recognize all marriages performed by that state, OR recognize none of the marriages performed in or under the auspices of non-compliant states and nations.
If you don't like same sex marriage, don't have one. Otherwise, mind your own damned business.